Human Communication - Diary 7

This week, Sir Anwari taught us about relationship stages and theories. After we've developed a good sense to carry out conversation, we can look at how effective interpersonal communication can form and relate to relationships around you. In fact, the relationship stages include contact, involvement, intimacy, deterioration, repair and dissolution.

 The first step is contact . In this stage, perceptual and interactional contact takes place. Second stage is involvement and in this stage people have tighter bonds and engagements with one another. For example, we can ask friends to join with us. After that, intimacy takes place. At this stage, people will have a deep and committed relationship with one another. The next stages is deterioration where other communication factors such as temporal, cultural or societal context weakness the bond with each other. Besides, the fifth stages of relationship is repair where those affected in the deterioration stage try to work things out with one another. Then, the last stages of relationship is dissolution where bonds are broken or returned back to a platonic. 

Apart from that, Sir Anwari also tell us that there are 6 types of the relationship theories such as attraction theory, relationship rules theory, relationship dialectics theory, social penetration theory, social exchange theory and equity theory. From the attraction theory, we know that why the individual will attract to each other. That is because of the similarity, proximity, reinforcement and physical attractiveness and personality. Furthermore, from the relationship rules theory, we know that different relationships have different relationship levels and attributes like friendship rules, romantic rules, family rules and workplace rules. Moreover, relationship dialectics theory describe that people in relationships often want to explore the extremes of the opposite qualities. The three pairs of opposites are closeness and openness, autonomy and connection,and novelty and predictability. The next relationship theory is social penetration theory. This theory describe about the people in relationships have the need to explore each other's personalities. The more deeper relationship would go deeper into the core personality of persons. Besides that, there are still have social exchange theory and equity theory. Both these theories suggests that individuals form relationship with one another based on whether or not it would bring benefit to them. In addition, equity theory is more towards forming professional relationship with one another.

On the other hand, we also learn about the dark side of interpersonal relationship such as jealousy. That is because relationship can get complicated and lead to ugly things in life and with one another. Sir Anwari also tell us that there are different types of jealous such as cognitive jealously, emotional jealously, and behavioral jealously. In conclusion, interpersonal communication is very important to each other in our daily life.